Grandpa Thomas Burkhead’s unit fought in the Battle of Stones River in Tennessee in 1862-1863, and occupied the area thereafter. One history of the regiment described this peculiar social dynamic that says a lot about how close together and how far apart the two sides were in the Civil War:
Just outside the picket line at Murfreesboro there lived a well to do planter who counted two beautiful young daughters as his most valuable possessions, one of whom was a widow, whose husband an officer in the confederate army had been killed in battle. The young ladies vied with each other as to which could say the most bitter things about the Yankees. They were exceedingly attractive having many accomplishments. Young officers and old ones too their wives being north of the Ohio went to see them.